Importance of restraining furious emotion.
Written by Nazia Tabasum A
“Thappad” – This movie is one of my favorites, where it reiterates the need for respect and the necessity of an apology that every woman deserves. I want to share my thoughts about a heartwarming scene from that movie, which gives an insight into why it’s not acceptable to let out frustration on loved ones, when they aren’t the reason for their anger.
In fact, the core of this movie revolves around the above topic. Amrita, happily married to Vikram, gets slapped by him in front of the guests at an office party. He loses the opportunity at the last moment. That disappointment turns into frustration and he vents that to his wife through a slap.
Although it wasn’t his wife’s fault, he didn’t hit his boss, fearing the consequences of losing the job. When she can’t tolerate his actions and stands against him, he fails to apologize and, in turn, expects her not to complicate their relationship.
The situation worsens between the couple and in one instance, Vikram’s office senior makes him realize that although he may be running a race in his professional life, he must understand that the family is not a place to compete. He also says that hurting his wife for someone else’s action is totally wrong and asks if he could have done the same to his boss.
This teaches us that taking advantage of loved ones for these kinds of things will create a gap in the bond and, at one point, it can weaken the relationship.
Anger is a natural human emotion that is mainly triggered due to personal expectations and disappointing circumstances. Some may express that feeling aggressively and others may suppress it assertively.
These two approaches have different consequences, as expressing anger without considering the limit can ruin a relationship. And on the other hand, suppressing it without communicating the concerns, can distort one’s mental health.
Hence, it is crucial to wisely handle our personal anger without burdening or hurting those who are closest to us. This is possible through open communication, which can pave the way for a healthy relationship and one’s own well-being.